Things are not going so hot and it’s your fault. You do not need to believe it is your fault, but the vast majority of the time, it is.

Why are not you altering the way I need you to?

Seems strange to say…maybe.

There Is a really profound belief that we cannot change other individuals, we can just change ourselves. We can only change ourselves, and if we need to repair it (whatever ‘it’ is – flashbacks of Bill Clinton merely got me laugh to myself), it must be our fault.

What occurred (an example)

I was checking on a rehab we now have in progress and it get me in a funk. I’d love to say that I walked in and was amazed at the advancement and quality of work. The opposite occurred. Matters had not progressed as quickly as they should have been and there were errors, major mistakes.

The tile was installed incorrect. The 12*24 inch tile was supposed to be stacked horizontally, where the 24 inch side is flat and the 12 inch side is perpendicular. It wasn’t.

It seemed strange.

The whole tub environment was done this way. The answer was, “yeah, the tile guy did it erroneous.” No kidding.

How come nobody caught it before the whole thing was concluded?

Afterward I walked into the master toilet….

It was done the exact same way! Not only that, the bath and shower are independent in the master and both had been done wrong. The GC was not on the job while I was there. I am guessing he hasn’t been on the job much lately…

Now my temper was beginning to flare. I make an effort to catch it more these days and I’m doing a good job of it. It is time to quit, take a deep breath and think things through, when the temper is lost.

I went to my car and I did exactly that. My immediate reaction when I saw the lack of progress and mistakes made was to blame the GC (general contractor). But, was it really his fault? He did make the error of not staying on top of his folks and he’s the one which has to handle it, but it causes issues for the complete rehabilitation. Which means, it causes difficulties for me.

Large fat BUT, it was my fault for not staying together with the GC. This kind of thing has been going on since we began rehabbing houses over ten years ago. It should not be a big shocker. Before, I ‘d constantly get angry and simply pin the blame on the contractor…but they kept doing it. Because that’s what some of them do. It’s only reality. Accept it.

I asked him why things were not correctly and progressing fast enough and put a call to the absent contractor. He didn’t mention anything about the tile. His answer was something similar to, “Oh. Can you believe that idiot did that?”

He’s playing the same game I was playing. It’s promptly someone else’s fault. I do not think it occurred to him he needed to blame himself for not staying on top of a new tile individual. Just how do I understand the tile man was new? Because we’ve been doing all tile designs the same for YEARS. It’s not something we shift frequently.

But, I did not get furious with him because I ‘d comprehended that finally I was responsible for not being there frequently enough myself. Which occurs when you use exactly the same contractor for a couple years and heaps of rehabilitations.

We’re the ones that have the investment and position in Orange Beach Rentals and nobody cares about our scenario more than we do or we should.

This is not just about contractors and rehabs

This idea that we should be responsible for everything that happens also matches with everything else that occurs in your life.

People make way too many alibis. I am not leave off from that.

We’ve to step up to the plate and get it happen the way we need it to occur, when things are not going well. This reminds me of something my father constantly reminds me of, “someone always has to be shoving.” If you should be relying on someone to do something for you, whether it be a title company to handle a closing, a Realtor to submit an offer, a landscaper to mow a lawn, a pupil to pass out flyers for you, and you want to be sure it really is done promptly and the way in which you want, you need to be pushing.

Needless to say, this doesn’t mean that you have to be an a-hole. Just keep checking in with people and getting status reports.

Had I done that I wouldn’t have made another error the previous week. My wife had scheduled to have the staging furniture for 1 of the houses we only sold moved to one that we just finished rehabbing.

To make a very long story short, I got a call saying there was no carpet in the house we were transferring the furniture to. What!!?! That was presumed to have already been done the week before. I had the text’s to prove it. But it wasn’t and it was might fault again for not making sure the house was ready. Live and learn.

If we want real change, it has to be our fault.

If we need real change, it must be our fault….so that we can change it.

What say you?

Have you been attributing someone else when you should be blaming yourself? Please share your experiences in the opinions below.

Thanks.